Psychologie

Schluss mit Grübeln: So bekommt der innere Kritiker Kontra

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Der innere Kritiker: Manche Menschen gehen sehr hart mit sich ins Gericht. Solche Sätze würden sie anderen nie an den Kopf werfen, aber sich selbst muten sie viel innere Kritik zu. Es geht auch anders...

Der innere Kritiker: Manche Menschen gehen sehr hart mit sich ins Gericht. Solche Sätze würden sie anderen nie an den Kopf werfen, aber sich selbst muten sie viel innere Kritik zu. Es geht auch anders...

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Essen.  Viele Menschen kritisieren sich selbst sehr. Was ruft den inneren Kritiker auf den Plan – und wie hält man die innere Kritik in Schach?

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