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Eine Mutter berichtet: Die Sehnsucht nach dem alten Leben

„Schlafmangel ist die geringste Sorge. Am allermeisten fehlt mir die freie Zeit“, sagt Anna Warren. Auf ihrem Bein: die neuneinhalb Monate alte Rosa.

„Schlafmangel ist die geringste Sorge. Am allermeisten fehlt mir die freie Zeit“, sagt Anna Warren. Auf ihrem Bein: die neuneinhalb Monate alte Rosa.

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Düsseldorf.   Anna Warren (31) ist Mutter einer kleinen Tochter. Seit der Geburt hat sich ihr Leben radikal verändert. Über die Schattenseiten des Mutterseins.

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Auf das erste Glück folgt Überforderung

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„Schlafmangel ist noch die geringste Sorge“

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Im Sommer steht der erste Urlaub zu dritt an

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