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Nach Tod von Lia: Wie geht man mit trauernden Eltern um?

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Eine Stadt trauert: Die Menschen nehmen Abschied von der kleinen Lia.

Eine Stadt trauert: Die Menschen nehmen Abschied von der kleinen Lia.

Foto: Tobias Schürmann

Menden.  Hilflos, unsicher: Trauerbegleiterin Johanna Schwarte gibt Ratschläge, wie Angehörige und Außenstehende mit trauernden Eltern umgehen können.

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Da sein: Immer wieder Unterstützung anbieten

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Zuhören: Betroffenen nicht aus dem Weg gehen

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